Boundary Setting – Rory Miller

I’ve described boundary setting in both ConCom and Scaling Force, but I was recently informed that I haven’t written it down quite the way I teach it. So here goes. Setting a boundary is not a negotiation or a conversation. It is a very different communication mode than most people ever use. This is why most people find … [Read more…]

What the United Airlines Incident Teaches Us about Boundary Setting – Erik Kondo

The recent incident of a passenger being forcibly removed from an airplane has created a firestorm of traditional and social media commentary. There has been lots of talk of passenger rights, laws, contracts, corporate profits, corporate responsibility, the use of force continuum, and more. What most people don’t seem to realize that this incident is … [Read more…]

The Specimen- A Case Study – Rory Miller

Got to watch an interesting specimen. In retrospect, I’ve seen them before, quite a lot actually. But this one was blatant enough to draw attention. Attention brings analysis. Have to unpack the language here, and talk about a couple of categories and some background concepts. Creepers are low-level sexual predators. The kind that harass and … [Read more…]

Boundary Setting for People with Disabilities – Erik Kondo and Sam de Leve

Boundary setting is a problem solving strategy that enables people to deal with and differentiate between awkward, rude, and dangerous people and situations. As people with disabilities, we are subject to boundary intrusions on a regular basis that stem from other people’s negative implicit bias regarding both our competence and vulnerability. Due to this bias, … [Read more…]

Contolling Chaos and Mayhem with the Progressive Boundary Setting Matrix – Erik Kondo

Nothing is certain in life except for death, taxes, and boundary setting. Most human interpersonal and societal relationships are based on some variation boundary setting. So unless you are a lifelong hermet, you have been using boundary setting since early childhood. While boundary setting is a natural action that people do in various ways. Effective … [Read more…]