We are all made up of two very different personalities. These two personalities determine how our lives will unfold. These two U’s are constantly battling for dominance. The U that is most dominant, the majority of the time, will ultimately determine the outcome of your life much more than any other circumstance. The … [Read more…]
Just because something really sucks doesn’t mean it works. Remember USM J. Jone’s three rules: Anything you teach must work moving or standing still, must work when you are adrenalized and, number one, anything you teach must have a tactical use.Combat sports train hard, but they train within a ruleset. Does that make it wrong? … [Read more…]
The recent incident of a passenger being forcibly removed from an airplane has created a firestorm of traditional and social media commentary. There has been lots of talk of passenger rights, laws, contracts, corporate profits, corporate responsibility, the use of force continuum, and more. What most people don’t seem to realize that this incident is … [Read more…]
Boundary setting is a problem solving strategy that enables people to deal with and differentiate between awkward, rude, and dangerous people and situations. As people with disabilities, we are subject to boundary intrusions on a regular basis that stem from other people’s negative implicit bias regarding both our competence and vulnerability. Due to this bias, … [Read more…]
————————————————————————————————————————————- Let’s play a word association game. Up – Down Big – Little Minus – Plus Bad – Good Negative – Positive The opposite of something negative is always a positive, right? If you thought “yes”, then you are in NOT politically correct terms “a sh!th@ad”. See how easy it is call someone names? There … [Read more…]
I wish people actually understood that VERY seldom will a punch kill. First, punching by itself is one of the least effective ways of attack (that’s oddly enough why it’s such a big part of social violence/dominance struggles – you don’t want to injure the guy thereby weakening your tribe.) Two is the human … [Read more…]
Commentary by Erik Kondo This video confrontation is very useful for illustrating a number of points. There is a systemic problem of people illegally parking in Accessible Parking Spaces. This problem is the result of a certain segment of drivers who have an underlying lack of respect for people with disabilities. This lack of respect … [Read more…]
Welcome to the beginning to learn page for women’s self-defense. The goal of this page is to provide you with a foundation for your understanding of self-defense and conflict management in an easy to learn fashion. Recommended Book: The Gift of Fear Recommended Book: What Every BODY is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent’s Guide to Speed-Reading People … [Read more…]
The simple answer is ‘See it coming and move.’ The not so simple answer is I just finished writing a 150 page e-book that covers this subject. It will be available next month. It’s called “Writing Violence IV: Defense” and it will be available for a whopping $2.99. I specifically go into some of why … [Read more…]
Whether you study a traditional martial art, a modern martial art, a self-defense system, defensive tactics or close quarter combat, all must meet one basic criteria: They must teach you how to control force. Notice I didn’t say ‘generate.’ That’s because generating force is only one aspect of controlling force. Specifically, you must be able … [Read more…]