Ineffective Bad – Rory Miller

Just because something really sucks doesn’t mean it works. Remember USM J. Jone’s three rules:  Anything you teach must work moving or standing still, must work when you are adrenalized and, number one, anything you teach must have a tactical use.Combat sports train hard, but they train within a ruleset.  Does that make it wrong? … [Read more…]

What the United Airlines Incident Teaches Us about Boundary Setting – Erik Kondo

The recent incident of a passenger being forcibly removed from an airplane has created a firestorm of traditional and social media commentary. There has been lots of talk of passenger rights, laws, contracts, corporate profits, corporate responsibility, the use of force continuum, and more. What most people don’t seem to realize that this incident is … [Read more…]

Boundary Setting for People with Disabilities – Erik Kondo and Sam de Leve

Boundary setting is a problem solving strategy that enables people to deal with and differentiate between awkward, rude, and dangerous people and situations. As people with disabilities, we are subject to boundary intrusions on a regular basis that stem from other people’s negative implicit bias regarding both our competence and vulnerability. Due to this bias, … [Read more…]

On Political Correctness: The Opposite of a Negative is Not Always a Positive – Erik Kondo

————————————————————————————————————————————- Let’s play a word association game. Up – Down Big – Little Minus – Plus Bad – Good Negative – Positive The opposite of something negative is always a positive, right? If you thought “yes”, then you are in NOT politically correct terms “a sh!th@ad”. See how easy it is call someone names? There … [Read more…]

Conflict Management Media: Episode #17 – “The Coffee Confrontation”

Commentary by Erik Kondo This video confrontation is very useful for illustrating a number of points. There is a systemic problem of people illegally parking in Accessible Parking Spaces. This problem is the result of a certain segment of drivers who have an underlying lack of respect for people with disabilities. This lack of respect … [Read more…]

Women’s Self-Defense – Beginning to Study

Welcome to the beginning to learn page for women’s self-defense.  The goal of this page is to provide you with a foundation for your understanding of self-defense and conflict management in an easy to learn fashion. Recommended Book: The Gift of Fear Recommended Book: What Every BODY is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent’s Guide to Speed-Reading People … [Read more…]

Q&R: How do I Handle a Haymaker Punch – Marc MacYoung (Conflict Manager, FEBRUARY, 2016)

The simple answer is ‘See it coming and move.’ The not so simple answer is I just finished writing a 150 page e-book that covers this subject. It will be available next month. It’s called “Writing Violence IV: Defense” and it will be available for a whopping $2.99. I specifically go into some of why … [Read more…]

Mushy Body Movement – Marc MacYoung

Whether you study a traditional martial art, a modern martial art, a self-defense system, defensive tactics or close quarter combat, all must meet one basic criteria: They must teach you how to control force. Notice I didn’t say ‘generate.’ That’s because generating force is only one aspect of controlling force. Specifically, you  must be able … [Read more…]