When it comes to having powerful punches, a whole lot of what you know ‘ain’t so.’ Or to be more precise, odds are you’re trying to fly a one-winged airplane. Quite frankly most people need to be less concerned with generating more power than they need to focus on losing less of what they already … [Read more…]
I was asked about my position about punching (alone) being an ineffective attack. As in “But doesn’t it cause damage?” My first response… *** A punch alone. No. There are many other factors that can cause the body to give way before something breaks.This is why punching alone is considered a sports technique — it’s … [Read more…]
I just got asked about knife disarms by someone who realized most of them are BS **** Actually I can’t answer this question. That’s because the most accurate answer I can give is “It depends.” There are three terms I want to introduce you to 1- Wicked problem A wicked problem is a problem that … [Read more…]
Human life has been and always will be filled interpersonal conflict. These conflicts range from mild disagreements to murder. Conflicts are the natural result of people have opposing interests. When it comes to handling interpersonal conflict, everyone has a “way” (strategy/methodology) of dealing with it. In fact, everyone has their own unique way. These many … [Read more…]
The following is a selected post from Conflict Manager Magazine. Full access to this monthly magazine is available to subscribers only. Click here to subscribe. Interesting in submitting an article for publication? Email: editor@ConflictManagerMagazine.com. “A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor” – English Proverb It is likely that there will come a time when … [Read more…]
The following is a selected post from Conflict Manager Magazine. Full access to this monthly magazine is available to subscribers only. Click here to subscribe. Interesting in submitting an article for publication? Email: editor@writeme.com I am a court recognized expert witness regarding knife use and violence. Yes, lawyers pay me. Don’t be a hater. … [Read more…]
The purpose of Communication is to enable Enforcement of the rules of behavior. Before the rules can be enforced, people need to understand the rules. Otherwise, the rules will be continuously violated due to a lack of understanding. But once understanding has been achieved, only those that don’t Respect the rules, violate them. The goal … [Read more…]
Many people think that enforcement creates respect. But in reality, sometimes it does and sometimes it doesn’t. For those who see enforcement creating respect, it is easy to believe that more enforcement leads to more respect. These people tend to use Over-Enforcement. There are also those who think that any level of enforcement will create … [Read more…]
When a Beholder(s) (violator/bystanders/witness/etc) feels that he or she has been subject to, or has witnessed an Over-Enforcement response, he or she has an emotional reaction of feelings of unfairness. The greater the perceived unfairness, the greater the emotion. This response is the Backlash (resentment, blowback) against both the Enforcer and/or the Rule being enforced. … [Read more…]
Nothing is certain in life except for death, taxes, and boundary setting. Most human interpersonal and societal relationships are based on some variation boundary setting. So unless you are a lifelong hermet, you have been using boundary setting since early childhood. While boundary setting is a natural action that people do in various ways. Effective … [Read more…]