There’s a lot happening in the world right now. More than you know, but probably less than you fear. Take a breath. Tension, fear and anger all make you stupid. And the resultant stupidity is a tool for someone else. Don’t be a tool. People learn through story. News outlets make money through advertising. People … [Read more…]
Here are some posts, articles, videos, websites, blogs, documents, studies, and more that CRGI members recommend in no particular order. The name in parentheses is person who made the recommendation. The Value of Probabilistic Thinking: Spies, Crime, and Lightning Strikes – Hock Hochheim Cooper’s Color Code | You’re Doing it Wrong – DP Friesen 45 … [Read more…]
I want everyone reading this to hold up their hand. Repeatedly curl your index finger. If you can do this, you have the physical ability to end a human life. That completely removes any contention of what you ‘can’t do.’ Everything from that point on boils down to what you are comfortable in doing and … [Read more…]
When we do Logic of Violence it starts with the Violence Dynamics talk. The Maslow perspective. This gives us motivations for violence– fear (Survival level); Stuff (resource predator, Security level on Maslow); the social motivations (status-membership-territory-protocols); or pleasure (process predators, Self-actualized on Maslow.) The next is understanding the violent people have goals and parameters. What … [Read more…]
Words are powerful. The words you use can influence or even control other peoples’ perceptions. And the words you think can influence or even control your comfort level. Changing the words you use to describe a past event can change how you feel about it. Done well, it is processing. Done poorly it is enabling … [Read more…]
The goal of this Site is to increase your Knowledge/Understanding/Intelligence (SMARTS) of the subject of Violence, Self-Defense, and Conflict Management. Increased SMARTS is directly related to your ability to quickly process and execute the connections and relationships between various concepts, principles, experiences, and pieces of information on relevant subject matter. This Site is not … [Read more…]
Rory Writes: This was just going to be an example for the last article on reframing, but it grew into an article of it’s own. One aspect of self-defense that is rarely addressed are low level predators and creeping victimizations. The low-level predators are the ones who keep their victims uncomfortable, but never cross … [Read more…]
I’ve used the term in writing and, judging from e-mail, haven’t ever adequately defined what I mean. If you’ve been victimized before, are you a victim personality? Victimized twice? Thrice? Ten times? Maybe. Maybe not. There are victim characteristics that all predators (and all aware humans) know. Distracted. Awkward in their physicality. Pleasers. People so … [Read more…]
Just read a really terrible book purporting to be about safety. Ignorant, repetitive and pseudo-profound. According to the back cover, the guy had a resume that sounded like a god, but there were basic words used incorrectly, over half the book was word-for-word repeats of the author’s talking points. And some of the … [Read more…]
Two observations, unrelated to each other except for the barnyard metaphors. 1) I have officially decided to quit making fun of the chi-meisters. You know, the guys who send their students spinning with a look or stun them with a gesture. The ones demonstrating and teaching no-touch knockouts. As some of you know, I’ve offered … [Read more…]