Sometimes I hate not thinking in words. Usually it’s a superpower. But right now I’m struggling to explain something that I see as…gestalt is the best word I can come up with. Stayed up all last night trying to find the words. Sometimes words would bubble up and I can explain a piece of it, … [Read more…]
. . There are things way, way off about this situation. This is a rolling situation that apparently started on the ramp and then got onto the plane. I’m also willing to lay money on that this part of the trauma-drama was a shift in tactics by the woman. As in: A- Look how pissed … [Read more…]
Saw an ad offering “No Bulls**t” self defense training. That’s laudable. That’s the goal. For that matter “No bullshit” should be a goal for training and talking and thinking and living. But it’s not that simple. The no-bullshit life is a goal, but if you ever think for one second that you’ve achieved it, you’ve … [Read more…]
I’m a big believer in ‘Use your words.’ Starting with if someone is fuckin’ furious with how words have been used to hurt and abuse them, it’s probably a good idea to stop using those same words — especially if the guy is about to shoot you in the face. Perhaps a different choice of … [Read more…]
I get tired of people asking me for ‘fear management’ questions and ‘how can I do 27 stupid things and still be safe? I do not live in a world of insults, loss of face, feelings or self-esteem issues. I do live in a world of danger. Dangers usually created by selfish and reckless … [Read more…]
The internet is awash with memes. Many of these memes are designed to convey a point of view or explain a subject. Many memes can be divided into two types, Smart Memes and Dumb Memes. Smart Memes have the effect of making you smarter by providing insight, by showing you a new perspective, or … [Read more…]
From what I see on my Facebook feed, there is a huge uptick people expressing their feelings of contempt. Prior to the election, my image of a person expressing contempt was that of a teenager displaying her (or his) lack of interest in an activity with the facial expression of “that’s stupid” written all over … [Read more…]
Are you interested in making America strong? Here are my thoughts on how you can help do it. Making a strong America requires having more strong Americans. What does it mean to be a strong American? It means to be a strong person. What does it mean to be a strong person? Being a … [Read more…]
There’s something I’ve written about, thresholds, and it’s not quite right. Experience with violence rewires you. The person who has survived a violent encounter is not the same person as they were before the violent encounter. Five encounters later, there’s another definite change. Then another and another and another. Six discrete stages is as … [Read more…]
I teach ‘self-defense.’ As such I can tell you locus of control is the elephant in the room. Which is kind of funny because everyone is arguing over the elephant poop problem, but denying there’s an elephant standing there. If I may beg your indulgence I’d like you to do two actions. First, hold … [Read more…]