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In light of upcoming events in the US, it is useful to be reminded about the dangers of crowds.


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There are many ways to deal with conflict. Mitigation is about reducing the after-effects and consequences of an incident. Therefore, this guy's actions are Mitigation of what had happened previously.

His method of Mitigation is to use Force-By-Self. People tend to use Force-By-Self when they have little trust that policing authorites (By-Proxy) will resolve their problem. Typically, the overall use of Force-By-Self in society is inversely proportional to trust in the government's ability to effectively enforce the law.

His method of Force-By-Self is the end result of a personal Cost vs. Benefit a/k/a Risk vs. Reward equation.

Some Benefits/Rewards are:
1. Return of phone.
2. Restoration of ego.
3. Revenge and punishment of the thief.
4. What else?

Some Costs/Risks are:
1. Serious physical injury to himself (or thief)
2. Retaliation by the thief
3. Possible mistaken identity of thief.
4. Legal consequences from action.
5. What else?

The bottom line is that all these factors (and more) come into play in determining a response to a conflict/violation.

And apparently, the Flying Backward Motorcyle Butt Drop actually works on "the street". Who knew?


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Here is another way of describing certain aspects of Violence Dynamics by categorizing three different types of "fights".

How do these three "fights" fit into Rory's and Marc's respective models of social and asocial violence?


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A now for a little cinematic action.

Miyamoto Musashi fight scene

Miyamoto Musashi fight scene

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What strategy/method of conflict management is illustrated in the video?
Why does it work in this case? When might it not work?

This takeaway owner completely ignored an armed robber and continued to serve customers instead.

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A conflict manager from history.

h/t: Maija Soderholm.

Witold Pilecki (13 May 1901 - 25 May 1948 ) - As a result of his efforts, he is considered as "One of Poland's Greatest Wartime Heroes" During World War II, he volunteered for a Polish resistance operation to get imprisoned in the Auschwitz death camp in order to gather intelligence and escape. While in the camp, Pilecki organized a resistance movement and as early as 1941, informed the Western Allies of Nazi Germany's Auschwitz atrocities. He escaped from the camp in 1943 after nearly two and a half years of imprisonment. Pilecki took part in the Warsaw Uprising in August 1944. He remained loyal to the London-based Polish government-in-exile after the Soviet-backed communist takeover of Poland and was arrested in 1947 by the Stalinist secret police (Urząd Bezpieczeństwa) on charges of working for "foreign imperialism", thought to be a euphemism for MI6. He was executed after a show trial in 1948. Until 1989, information about his exploits and fate was suppressed by the Polish communist regime. Witold Pilecki codenames Roman Jezierski, Tomasz Serafiński, Druh, Witold) was a Polish soldier, a rittmeister of the Polish Cavalry during the Second Polish Republic, the founder of the Secret Polish Army (Tajna Armia Polska) resistance group in German-occupied Poland in November 1939, and a member of the underground Home Army (Armia Krajowa), which was formed in February 1942. He was the author of Witold's Report, the first comprehensive Allied intelligence report on Auschwitz concentration camp and the Holocaust. He was Roman Catholic. www.facebook.com/KolorHistorii/?ref=bookmarks

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The use of play has been used for conflict management and martial arts training throughout history.

I guess this fits in there somewhere.

H/t Jeffrey Johnson

Yes, it's really a thing

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A problem solving and awareness exercise for your brain.

Why? Because effective conflict and situation mangement requires problem solving and awareness skills and ability. - Erik K.

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Here is an example of conflict mirroring. One person acts in a certain manner and the other person "mirrors" the behavior.

What are some other examples of conflict mirroring? - Erik K

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This brief audio clip is the INTRODUCTION to the new Active Shooter Audio Lesson by Rory Miller

The 23 minute audio lesson is FREE to current or newly joining CRGI members.

Non-members may purchase the lesson via the link below.

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"Something I realized a long time ago is that for a system to work, it takes all types. And inversely, a 'working' system is flexible enough to provide for the greatest diversity of types.
That is a seemingly simple idea, but is all kinds of complex in real life application.

It is however the difference between a large functioning system and a safety glass-like breaking/ pebbling into countless little church-down- the-road, " We do it this way" groups.
What I have seen in my lifetime - and I really have no shorter way to describe it than the previous paragraph -- is certain 'this is how it shall be done' micro-groups take over larger groups. Followed by trying to force their agenda onto all within the group. This changes the direction of the group, but more importantly it causes the group to become more rigid and inflexible.
Often instead of improving the conditions for all, these agendas result in both people leaving and profit/power for one group at the expense of others.

Under these conditions, if the group doesn't completely 'pebble' into countless microgroups, then the size of the original large group significantly shrinks. Same name, same brand, but greatly reduced. This because those who are no longer being served by the group leave for 'greener pastures' while those who stay -- who aren't in the new power cabal -- really aren't that negatively impacted.

Is this 'progress?' The answer kind of depends on where you stand on the profit by/gain power spectrum. The bigger picture is also less cut and dried." - Marc MacYoung

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h/t: Tammy Yard McCracken ...

This is such an amazing video I wish the whole world can see. It's guaranteed to give you feels, make you say "Aww" and maybe shed a tear. Share this with everyone know! Bullying, whether it’s face-to-face or cyber bullying, has negative effects on victims and survivors. They suffer physically, mentally, emotionally and their self esteem goes down. Some bullying targets become depressed and some of these attempt suicide. Best, TD www.imdb.com/name/nm1769806/

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