PART I Keep It Simple and Straightforward with Progressive Boundary Setting Street harassment is a complex issue. Solutions to complex issues require a means to help conceptualize and convey them. Societies are based upon rules a/k/a boundaries that limit unwanted behaviors. These rules must be COMMUNICATED. If the rules are not RESPECTED, then they must … [Read more…]
PLEASE READ THE ARTICLE FIRST: http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/05/13/i-was-groped-on-the-subway/?smid=fb-nytimes&WT.z_sma=OP_IWG_20130513 The previous story is worthwhile for commentary because it is a fairly common example that illustrates a number of important concepts. The 1ST important concept to grasp is that the primary reason the woman doesn’t respond to the man is due to FEAR OF NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCES of her taking action. There … [Read more…]
I normally don’t engage in conversations on planes. Small talk doesn’t interest me. With very few exceptions if I talk about what I do it makes the people around uncomfortable. And people make me tired. Today was a pleasant and awesome exception. I happened to sit next to a lady who on top of playing … [Read more…]
Some background first. There are a lot of experts on criminal behavior out there. There are also a lot of ‘experts’. ‘Experts’ first. The biggest problem is that bad guys lie. A lot of the so-called experts were clearly snowed. They were manipulated from the very beginning to tell the story that the bad guy … [Read more…]
I don’t write about domestic violence, because I don’t feel I know enough about it. I know, I know, that doesn’t seem to stop most ‘experts’ in any field… but, flippancy aside, understanding violence is important. Misinformed people get hurt. Passing bad information, even if it makes you feel good, victimizes the people who listen. … [Read more…]
This is that question Tiffany asked yesterday: So… today in class we were having a discussion on bullying. Having been bullied as a child I made the comment that I was against it and stop it when I see it happening. A girl turned to me and said that bullying happens, its normal, and to … [Read more…]
I was asked a while ago to put something together for Bullying. It’s getting a lot of press. There are a lot of programs, and people seeking more. I refused. The simple fact is that the people who want those programs want a magic solution and there have only ever been two things that work … [Read more…]
Get a cup of coffee, this is gonna be a discussion of another long, complex subject. And I mean a real long one. (No lie, I mean it’s REALLY long.) I always enjoy pointing folks to a study done at Emory University. People — who identified themselves as either liberals or conservatives — were put … [Read more…]
This blog can be used as a tool by anyone who wants to teach self-defense and effective rape prevention to women. It also will help folks who have ever been accused of ‘blaming the victim’ because they dared ask the very reasonable question: “What was she doing there in the first place?” Get yourself a … [Read more…]
The Victim Blaming Accusation Lobby has taken a worthwhile cause and morphed it into an extremist movement designed to silence and discredit all those that disagree with their point of view.The worthwhile cause is victims of sexual assault should not be blamed by society for what transpired. They should not subject themselves to harmful self-blame. The blame should rest … [Read more…]