I have what I call ‘reveal questions.’ These are questions that I don’t care about the exact answers. It’s what the nature of the answer that reveals what I’m looking for. The answers can be simple statements. Simple, but that if you know what to look, speak volumes. An example is I’d heard about a … [Read more…]
Yesterday, I was in the middle of a crowded bike ride in New York City, I had just rode off a curb in order to get from the sidewalk to the street when my gears started to rattle. I quickly pulled over and inspected my gear wheel. Sure enough, part of the derailleur was sagging … [Read more…]
Before you read, watch… http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LlFAd4YdQks I’ve long maintained that there is a significant difference between abuse and domestic violence. Abuse is abuse. But domestic violence is much more of a fight — participatory, consensual and mutual. As anyone who has ever lived in a trailer park, barrio or ‘hood can tell you, ‘Domestic violence, a … [Read more…]
. The Violation Triangle is a model that explains the creation and existence of human violations in society both on an individual basis and also on a systemic multi-incident basis. And it shows the steps necessary to reduce the violations. The Violation Triangle utilizes the same three element concept of the Fire Triangle. In order … [Read more…]
If you have any interest or involvement in the area of sexual assault prevention, most likely you have been exposed to the raging ideological battles revolving around the existence or non-existence of Rape Culture and its effect on the rate of rape and sexual assault in society. Briefly, the concept behind Rape Culture is that … [Read more…]
25 Everyday Examples Of Rape Culture http://www.rolereboot.org/culture-and-politics/details/2014-03-25-everyday-examples-rape-culture/ My response to this article follows: ******** I don’t refer to the “‘fallacy’ of rape culture” but I do question it’s accuracy. First off, experience has taught me to question any term that is both self-defined and controlled by the people who claim to be the ‘victim’ of … [Read more…]
Often we mistake our perspective for truth and full knowledge. All those people looking down from their windows were looking at the initial assault from different perspectives. None of them were on the ground. From way up there, you couldn’t see the knife. So what you would see from a window looked like a … [Read more…]
A huge problem right now about this issue is that it’s become about money. BIG money. First is I am a strong believer that any so-called expert, researcher or advocate for domestic violence needs to be forced to live in a trailer park for a year. That will curtail the problem between the interview approach … [Read more…]
Yeah it’s an overreaction. Buta) those things happen when you’ve pushed things out into the extremesb) this shit was WAY off scriptA – There is a dangerous trend out there, one that I’ve been trying to explain in the latest book. But the short version doesn’t carry the impact or significance of the … [Read more…]
****************** NOTE: There is a HUGE VARIETY of street harassment. There is also a HUGE VARIETY of people who are harassed. And a HUGE VARIETY of people who harass. Therefore, there is no single solution or response that works. In fact, there is a HUGE VARIETY to what can be considered “working”. The “Not interested!” … [Read more…]