All Self-Defense Methodologies are essentially Problem Solving Systems whose desired solution is to deprive an aggressor of his or her Intent and/or Means and/or Opportunity to do harm with in a framework of legal considerations and consequences. The “problem” is “solved” when one or more of Intent, Means, Opportunity has been eliminated. The viewpoint of … [Read more…]
All Self-Protection Methodologies are essentially problem solving systems whose solution is to deprive an aggressor of his or her Intent and/or Means and/or Opportunity to do harm. The Point of View of the Problem Solver influences which system he or she will choose. All of these systems are made up of a distinct set … [Read more…]
Nothing is certain in life except for death, taxes, and boundary setting. Most human interpersonal and societal relationships are based on some variation boundary setting. So unless you are a lifelong hermet, you have been using boundary setting since early childhood. While boundary setting is a natural action that people do in various ways. Effective … [Read more…]
First of all, don’t get all weirded out by the triune brain theory. Yes, most psychologists don’t recognize its validity (always be suspicious of books on the brain written by famous astronomers) but it is a model that works and helps make other concepts easy to grasp. Here goes: There are three levels of your … [Read more…]
Google the term “self defense” and there almost 10 million results. Millions of people expounding on different ideas of what constitutes self-defense. Google “self-defense competency” and the results drop down to a couple thousand. What does it mean to be competent in self defense? It doesn’t mean that you are safe. You could safely … [Read more…]
The D-Spiral of Defeat represents the internal decision making process that occurs when a person is confronted by an unexpected stressful situation. The duration of this spiral may be either short or long term depending upon the individual. The longer the spiral lasts, the more likely that the outcome will be defeat. Denial is the … [Read more…]
. The Violation Triangle is a model that explains the creation and existence of human violations in society both on an individual basis and also on a systemic multi-incident basis. And it shows the steps necessary to reduce the violations. The Violation Triangle utilizes the same three element concept of the Fire Triangle. In order … [Read more…]
MASLOW In 1943 Abraham Maslow published his famous hierarchy of needs. The idea was simple. If you are in danger of dying—starving, thirsty, sick or about to be killed and eaten– that is your highest priority. Until you have taken care of your immediate survival needs you don’t give a damn, and you don’t waste … [Read more…]
“Don’t be a victim” is classic self-defense advice. It is usually directed towards women. It tells women to walk with confidence when out and about, to be aware of their surroundings, etc. What is piece of advice fails to address is that the most likely Casualties of Violence fall into two vastly different groups. The … [Read more…]
A Secure Person is one who is able to limit and control anti-social behaviors both by himself and by others. These unwanted behaviors range from bullying, harassment, sexual assault, to murder and mayhem. A Secure Person uses the Security Trio of Respect, Communication, and Enforcement. He or she clearly communicates the rules of behavior. These … [Read more…]