Seven Things Effective People Know About Boundary Setting – Erik Kondo

  Most people think that Boundary Setting only has something to do with a “personal bubble” and “personal space”. Effective people know better. 1. Boundary Setting is fundamental to civilization. All effective individuals, groups, organizations, and societies use Boundary Setting to control and limit behaviors. Chaos and mayhem are the result of a lack of … [Read more…]

The Rise of the Toxic Unfairist and the Spread of Toxic Unfairism – Erik Kondo

A Toxic Unfairist is an activist who spreads feelings of Toxic Unfairism in society. What exactly is “unfair” varies from person to person, group to group, and movement to movement. Unfairism Is the belief that society is not treating a certain segment or group of the population in a fair and just manner. Toxic Unfairism is … [Read more…]

Boundary Setting is the Foundation of Civilization and Individual Success – Erik Kondo

Boundary Setting is fundamental for human success both on an individual and societal level. Societies that effectively use Boundary Setting create progress and advance civilization (think of Rome). They are able to build upon ideas and inventions. Societies with ineffective Boundary Setting descend into chaos and mayhem (think of barbarians). Individuals that utilize effective Boundary … [Read more…]

The Fear Profiteers: How They Manipulate and Harm You and Society – Erik Kondo

As much as many people may dislike bankers, financial systems have enabled civilizations to develop and prosper. The availability and flow of capital has facilitated the creation of modern societies. There is another commodity that also central to civilization and individual prosperity, it is the “supply” or “amount” of Trust in society. Trust is defined … [Read more…]

Three Types of Learning – Which One Do You Use? – Erik Kondo

There are three distinct categories of learning: Vertical Learning, Horizontal Learning, and Connective Learning. Vertical Learning is the process of learning in a step by step linear fashion. You begin with the basics and build on the basics with successively more complicated concepts, skills, tasks, etc. Learning math is an example of this process. Additional … [Read more…]

Hyper-Advocates and Two Types of Problem Solving Methodologies – Erik Kondo

There are many ways in which people try to solve problems in their lives and in the world. But, there are two widely used methods that take completely opposite approaches. The method used is usually a function of the person’s Locus of Control. Internal Locus Problem Solving (ILPS)- Someone with an Internal Locus of Control … [Read more…]

Self-Defense Competency: Environmental Knowledge, Rule Knowledge, and Domain Knowledge – Erik Kondo

  Google the term “self defense” and there almost 10 million results. Millions of people expounding on different ideas of what constitutes self-defense. Google “self-defense competency” and the results drop down to a couple thousand. What does it mean to be competent in self defense? It doesn’t mean that you are safe. You could safely … [Read more…]

Blame and Responsibility Are Not Mutually Exclusive – Erik Kondo

Let’s take a look at the following accepted and politically correct phrasing used when referring to sexual assault. “Rape and all forms of sexual assault are completely unacceptable, no matter the circumstances and is *never* the fault of the victim.” Finding fault and placing blaming is a societal construct. These terms are used for assigning … [Read more…]