This video exemplifies: COMMENT by Erik Kondo 1. Effective use of the head butt for personal protection. Whether or not this method led to legal consequences is unknown. 2. Initially, the woman uses the Visual & Verbal Fence to ward off her aggressor. When these methods fails, she quickly escalates to the Physical Fence in … [Read more…]
This video illustrates: COMMENT by Erik Kondo 1. The target is momentarily frozen by the unexpected attack. The freeze is a natural response. It takes her a few moments, but she is able to start fighting back. She gains momentum and is able to force her attacker to retreat. 2. The attacker failed to finish … [Read more…]
. Strike Induced Freeze
The most commonly held view of a self-defense situation involves an “evil” attacker assaulting an innocent victim. As a result, the majority of self-defense instruction is based on the following two fundamental beliefs: 1. If you are able to inform people about the existence of threats to their personal safety, this information will then make … [Read more…]
A Secure Person is one who is able to limit and control anti-social behaviors both by himself and by others. These unwanted behaviors range from bullying, harassment, sexual assault, to murder and mayhem. A Secure Person uses the Security Trio of Respect, Communication, and Enforcement. He or she clearly communicates the rules of behavior. These … [Read more…]
The Progressive Fence is a model for understanding how to communicate and enforce limits on unwanted behavior during interpersonal conflicts and confrontations. It all starts with the Visual Fence of body language. We can talk about the importance of walking with purpose, being alert and aware of our surroundings, and projecting confidence. But that is … [Read more…]
****************** NOTE: There is a HUGE VARIETY of street harassment. There is also a HUGE VARIETY of people who are harassed. And a HUGE VARIETY of people who harass. Therefore, there is no single solution or response that works. In fact, there is a HUGE VARIETY to what can be considered “working”. The “Not interested!” … [Read more…]
PART I Keep It Simple and Straightforward with Progressive Boundary Setting Street harassment is a complex issue. Solutions to complex issues require a means to help conceptualize and convey them. Societies are based upon rules a/k/a boundaries that limit unwanted behaviors. These rules must be COMMUNICATED. If the rules are not RESPECTED, then they must … [Read more…]
PLEASE READ THE ARTICLE FIRST: http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/05/13/i-was-groped-on-the-subway/?smid=fb-nytimes&WT.z_sma=OP_IWG_20130513 The previous story is worthwhile for commentary because it is a fairly common example that illustrates a number of important concepts. The 1ST important concept to grasp is that the primary reason the woman doesn’t respond to the man is due to FEAR OF NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCES of her taking action. There … [Read more…]
Why effective Techniques and Tactics don’t necessarily create effective Strategies. There are basic TACTICS that people use in response to confrontation and conflict. These responses are the sum of (1) their instinctive behaviors, (2) behaviors that are learned and conditioned from being a member of society, and (3) behaviors that are learned and conditioned from … [Read more…]