Why Does Self-Defense “Work” and Not Work? – Erik Kondo

Self-defense “works” for the same reason that it doesn’t work and that underlying reason is because most people quit at a certain level of resistance or motivation. Most people who join a gym will quit going regularly soon after. Most people who decide to stop smoking will quit the “stopping”. Most people who join a … [Read more…]

18 Things of “It’s on Us” That Are Also on You – Erik Kondo

The new White House campaign “It’s on us” reminds us that all of the members of society need to take personal responsibility and get involved in promoting the public welfare, particularly in terms of reducing sexual assault and increasing bystander intervention. “Us” means everyone. That includes those that think that “Us” is “Them”. “Us” includes … [Read more…]

Temporary Othering: A Tool for Self-Defense – Erik Kondo

The latest mass killing in the US has created quite a stir of Othering. It began with a socially outcast vengeful young man with pent-up frustration who blames others for his unhappiness. To many in the US, he was a “Nut Job”. To many people outside the US, he was another “American Nut Job”. To some anti-gun activists, he … [Read more…]

What is Your Goal for Self-Defense? – Erik Kondo

Ask multiple people the question “What is the goal of self-defense?” and you are guaranteed to receive a wide variety of answers. These answers usually fall along these lines: “To survive” “To escape” “To not get injured” “To defeat your attacker” “To avoid an attack” “To not be victimized” All of these answers are correct … [Read more…]

The College Sexual Assault and Alcohol Link: A Non-Ideological Explanation – Erik Kondo

  Without the presence of a person with violating intent, there can be no sexual assault. Therefore, in such a situation regardless of how much a person drinks, she or he will not get intentionally sexually assaulted. That factual logic is the bases for the argument that dinking does not cause sexually assault. According to … [Read more…]

Why Keyboard Warriors and their Comments are so Dumb: a/k/a Idjits Gonna Idj – Erik Kondo

  Anyone who has ever demonstrated a self-defense technique or concept via video has been subject to critical comments coming from people who can be best described as Keyboard Warriors. These people feel they have the unique combination of knowledge and physical skill that provides them the ability to cast judgment on the effectiveness of … [Read more…]

Five Steps for Evaluating the Effectiveness of a Self-Defense Technique – Erik Kondo

You just watched someone demonstrate a self-defense technique. Now, how do you determine whether or not the technique is effective? The most frequent commentary on a self-defense technique is some variation of ‘that would work” or “that wouldn’t work”.  While these types of comments express an opinion, they don’t provide any insight into the validity … [Read more…]

Nine Ways to Test What You Are Reading for ‘Toxic Ideology’ – Erik Kondo

The recent uproar over the latest product enabling women to test for date rape drugs brings to mind the question of “How do you test an article, post, or comment for being infected with ‘Toxic Ideology’? Toxic Ideology is no laughing matter. It has the potential to spread like a virus among vulnerable victims. Toxic … [Read more…]