Why Does Self-Defense “Work” and Not Work? – Erik Kondo

Self-defense “works” for the same reason that it doesn’t work and that underlying reason is because most people quit at a certain level of resistance or motivation. Most people who join a gym will quit going regularly soon after. Most people who decide to stop smoking will quit the “stopping”. Most people who join a … [Read more…]

18 Things of “It’s on Us” That Are Also on You – Erik Kondo

The new White House campaign “It’s on us” reminds us that all of the members of society need to take personal responsibility and get involved in promoting the public welfare, particularly in terms of reducing sexual assault and increasing bystander intervention. “Us” means everyone. That includes those that think that “Us” is “Them”. “Us” includes … [Read more…]

Temporary Othering: A Tool for Self-Defense – Erik Kondo

The latest mass killing in the US has created quite a stir of Othering. It began with a socially outcast vengeful young man with pent-up frustration who blames others for his unhappiness. To many in the US, he was a “Nut Job”. To many people outside the US, he was another “American Nut Job”. To some anti-gun activists, he … [Read more…]

What is Your Goal for Self-Defense? – Erik Kondo

Ask multiple people the question “What is the goal of self-defense?” and you are guaranteed to receive a wide variety of answers. These answers usually fall along these lines: “To survive” “To escape” “To not get injured” “To defeat your attacker” “To avoid an attack” “To not be victimized” All of these answers are correct … [Read more…]