Hopefully, this will be the last of the introspection posts for a while. But I committed to writing close to the bone: Another reason the new book hit me so hard was that the process (my life process for the last several years) has violated my own epistemology. My society has a common belief about … [Read more…]
Have you given any thought on how you would handle an active shooter situation beyond the simple Run, Hide, Fight mantra? In this informative 23 minute audio lesson, Rory Miller gives you his take on how to handle an active shooter. Listen to Rory’s introduction to the lesson below. Please use button below to listen … [Read more…]
Over the last few years I have been telling people that I was tracking the rise in “Right Wing Extremism.” Now much of it was just tough talk, but there was enough to make me seriously concerned — especially when it was looking as if Hillary was going to win. These guys were gearing … [Read more…]
Once again someone asking about getting ‘arrested for self-defense.’ *** Years ago a friend of mine came up with four levels you have to succeed at in order to ‘win’ in a self-defense situation. 1 – You must be able to act (This means the first level is you must over come the freeze … [Read more…]
And today’s question was about ‘footwork’ — specifically what is footwork (followed by all kinds of “This style says do it this way, but this style says this” silliness from marketing driven ~cough cough~ ‘knowledge’ and claims about what style has the best footwork. *** Footwork = mobility. Mobility = well all kinds of … [Read more…]
Someone tried the ‘tone police’ approach to shutting down conversation on me. Here’s my response. **** … I’m not a big fan of people deciding they don’t have to talk anymore — for whatever reason, but especially when those reasons are self-righteous and emotional. I’ve kind of bled a few times when folks do … [Read more…]
Boundary setting is a problem solving strategy that enables people to deal with and differentiate between awkward, rude, and dangerous people and situations. As people with disabilities, we are subject to boundary intrusions on a regular basis that stem from other people’s negative implicit bias regarding both our competence and vulnerability. Due to this bias, … [Read more…]
I’m a big believer in ‘Use your words.’ Starting with if someone is fuckin’ furious with how words have been used to hurt and abuse them, it’s probably a good idea to stop using those same words — especially if the guy is about to shoot you in the face. Perhaps a different choice of … [Read more…]
Boundaries … some are very real and tangible, like the fence that runs along your property. Others are inside you, determining what you do, what you don’t do and what you will tolerate others doing to you. What are boundaries? A great deal has been said about people who have no boundaries and cannot … [Read more…]
This quiz will test your basic understanding of social violence. It draws on both Marc MacYoung’s and Rory Miller’s models of violence dynamics. [mlw_quizmaster quiz=5]