I’ve always had problems with Lisak’s work. I’ve especially had problems with people who use his works as Holy Writ about rape and rapists and why we need draconian laws. I’ve had too many extremists claim “All rapists are serial rapists” and demand excessive punishment because anyone who is accused of rape — using Lisak’s ever … [Read more…]
Springboarding off my snarl about ‘victimology’ (and in response to someone’s comment about dissuading muggers) An idea I’ve been working on is what I’m calling the ‘isolation bubble.’ As in people going through modern life as if they are in a mental/emotional/ physical force field that keeps everything at bay and they don’t have to … [Read more…]
Anyone who has ever demonstrated a self-defense technique or concept via video has been subject to critical comments coming from people who can be best described as Keyboard Warriors. These people feel they have the unique combination of knowledge and physical skill that provides them the ability to cast judgment on the effectiveness of … [Read more…]
A Toxic Unfairist is an activist who spreads feelings of Toxic Unfairism in society. What exactly is “unfair” varies from person to person, group to group, and movement to movement. Unfairism Is the belief that society is not treating a certain segment or group of the population in a fair and just manner. Toxic Unfairism is … [Read more…]
I think I just figured out what bothers me so much about people writing from the perspective of ‘_____ (fill in the blank)s are the victims of society.’ This especially when it comes to making statements about how they’re taught/raised/what society expects of them and the horrible burdens they must carry because of society. First … [Read more…]
Yep… I got called privileged again. Or to be more specific I was told I ‘don’t believe in privilege.’ In responding I came across some points of interest and considerations — especially light of some of the arguments that have been going on over the stuff I post: **** I have a saying, “Truth is … [Read more…]
Wow I don’t know how to answer this. Every time I tell stories about what I went through, someone says I’m lying (and making shit up to sound like an uber-bad ass). If I don’t tell stories I’m told I haven’t been there and I don’t know what it’s like in the streets. If I … [Read more…]
SSgt Grizzly Bear has a saying “Ignorance is not a sustainable paradigm in violence professions.”Unfortunately bad information from your instructor can (and will) get you killed, hospitalized, imprisoned or sued. While I hope and pray that nobody I teach ever has to use the information, I know that some of them will find themselves in … [Read more…]
Let’s take a look at the following accepted and politically correct phrasing used when referring to sexual assault. “Rape and all forms of sexual assault are completely unacceptable, no matter the circumstances and is *never* the fault of the victim.” Finding fault and placing blaming is a societal construct. These terms are used for assigning … [Read more…]
Let me cut to the chase, social ‘crisis’ IS a multibillion dollar industry. What I want to talk about here is the business of’ social problems and ‘making a career out of’ them. This is an important mental shift because, once you make something your career, you never actually want to solve the problem. … [Read more…]