Why should I leave? What about my rights? Are you telling me to be a pussy? The definitive answer – Marc MacYoung

I get questions about being confronted on the street all the time. The above are common responses to my advice to making a good faith effort to withdraw from a potentially violent situation. Well, here’s pretty much what I have to say about that *** Think of the street you live on. Imagine you have … [Read more…]

On Self-reliance vs. Group-reliance – Marc MacYoung

This was in response to a younger man’s declaration of self-reliance, strength, how dysfunctional groups weaken you and promote weakness. His final summation was that family was a place where he’d return to lick his wounds. …. Oh what a difference a few decades make.I really understand the position of total self-reliance. It was mine … [Read more…]

Conflict Management Media: Episode #14 – No Wonder You People Get Shot

    Commentary by Erik Kondo Over-enforcement is in the eye of the beholder(s). Regardless of the legitimacy of this ticket, the Driver felt that she was being unjustly treated (Over-enforcement), her verbal response of “No wonder you people get shot” was the associated Backlash. One the other hand, the majority of those watching the … [Read more…]

Abandon – Rory Miller

Abandon I like the word “abandon” and it has been coming up a lot, lately. There are three (at least) instincts when faced with chaos and danger. The most common is to try to control it. To minimize the chaos, to minimize the danger. To basically take chaos and and make it “not chaos.” Whatever … [Read more…]