Is Your Belief System the Fantasy Island of Self-defense? – Erik Kondo

      The above video series is great examples of a Belief System. What is a belief system? According to Wikipedia: A “belief system” is a set of mutually supportive beliefs. The beliefs of any such system can be classified as religious, philosophical, ideological, or a combination of these. In layman’s terms: “Belief systems … [Read more…]

Wheelchair Self-defense: On Using Your Wheelchair as a Weapon and More

I have repeatedly come across internet self-defense “advice” for wheelchair users. The majority of the suggestions provided usually refer to how to “fight back” against attackers. The two main themes usually consists of (a) using your wheelchair as a weapon and (b) how to use being lower than you attacker as an advantage. My first … [Read more…]

Self-Defense Instructor Problem: Dealing with “It’s not my job to prevent being assaulted.” – Erik Kondo

  Self-Defense Instructor Problem: How do I deal with a person’s whose argument is that violent assault is a societal, not an individual problem, and therefore, it is not an individual’s responsibility to prevent his or her own victimization? As a self-defense instructor or proponent, many times you will be faced with someone who states … [Read more…]

How Belief Systems Get People Injured, Violated, and Killed – Erik Kondo

Every year in the United States some 76,000 pedestrians are injured in traffic accidents. Another 4,000 are killed. Alcohol was involved (either the Driver or Pedestrian) in almost 50% of the incidents of Pedestrian death. For discussion purposes, let’s focus on only those incidents that occur in designated crosswalks where the pedestrian has the right … [Read more…]

Optimize Your Life: Conflict Manager vs. Conflict Mis-manager – Erik Kondo

op•ti•mize verb 1. make the best or most effective use of (a situation, opportunity, or resource). “to optimize viewing conditions, the microscope should be correctly adjusted”   Your life is a limited resource and you want to use it as effectively as possible. You may choose to use your life in a wide variety of … [Read more…]

13 Reasons Why “I” Don’t Need Conflict Management Skills – Erik Kondo

I have a “right” to be treated with respect, it is other people’s responsibility to treat me respectfully regardless of my behavior. I shouldn’t have to be concerned with my own personal safety, my safety should other people’s responsibility. I am a business owner, all my employees treat each other politely and fairly at all … [Read more…]

What V-bola Could Teach Us About Violence – Erik Kondo

Let’s imagine there is a dangerous socially transmitted disease, called V-bola. The transmission of V-bola from men to women is a serious problem in society that effects anywhere between 10-30% of the female population. There are two different groups of researchers that both want to stop the transmission of V-bola from men to women. The … [Read more…]