There’s an old saw about every story having two sides. My wife — an ex journalist– scoffs at that idea and replies, “Two? You’re lucky if there’s only 16!” I tell you that because anytime someone claims to understand the ‘real motivations’ of something my bullshit detectors start flashing and sounding off.I have a term … [Read more…]
I have a serious problem with the abuse of the word ‘survivor.’ Well, more specifically people who have extremely limited experience with violence trying to ’empower victims’ by calling them survivors. See thing about being a survivor is there’s this little complication called death. As in, you die if you don’t get off your ass … [Read more…]
Our monkey judgments and assumptions are like looking out the windows of our apartment building. They distance us from actual events. They color our perceptions of what we think we see (e.g., the few who did witness the first attack assumed it was a domestic dispute). Looking from one particular building also limits what we … [Read more…]
Someone asked me how In the Name of Self-Defense is different than my earlier works. *** 1) My first book Cheap Shots was a brain dump of a 28 year old thug trying to get out of being that. In a very real sense, it was all the stuff I subconsciously knew, but I didn’t … [Read more…]
25 Everyday Examples Of Rape Culture http://www.rolereboot.org/culture-and-politics/details/2014-03-25-everyday-examples-rape-culture/ My response to this article follows: ******** I don’t refer to the “‘fallacy’ of rape culture” but I do question it’s accuracy. First off, experience has taught me to question any term that is both self-defined and controlled by the people who claim to be the ‘victim’ of … [Read more…]
Justification: The act by which a party accused shows and maintains a good and legal reason in court, why he did the thing he is called upon to answer. http://www.lectlaw.com/def/j060.htm Oh you can think what you did was ‘justified’ but the responsibility of showing and maintaining a good legal reason is on you and your … [Read more…]
I often tell people “Self-defense is a small target in a big landscape of violence. It’s very easy to miss and missing has consequences” When it comes to use of lethal force that target gets way, way smaller. And the consequences become, much, much harsher. In many ways we make a serious mistake when we separate … [Read more…]
Often we mistake our perspective for truth and full knowledge. All those people looking down from their windows were looking at the initial assault from different perspectives. None of them were on the ground. From way up there, you couldn’t see the knife. So what you would see from a window looked like a … [Read more…]
A huge problem right now about this issue is that it’s become about money. BIG money. First is I am a strong believer that any so-called expert, researcher or advocate for domestic violence needs to be forced to live in a trailer park for a year. That will curtail the problem between the interview approach … [Read more…]
Referenced Article Caption: A life-like statue of a guy sleepwalking in his underwear awakens a protest by campus feminists. My problem with people who squeal about ‘triggers’ is two fold. One. I don’t like the term passive aggressive, because way more often it’s aggressive-passive. I call it ‘carpet mold aggression’ because of a common … [Read more…]