Ever wonder why people say and do hateful things to individuals and groups? Here is a test you can try. Think of a group of people you dislike. Everyone dislikes some group of people. After all, those people cause problems for you and society. They are all alike, if you think about it. Wouldn’t it … [Read more…]
It’s a frightening thought. Your friend on Facebook encourages terrorism. But before discussing the indicators of someone who aids terrorists, a little background is required. Terrorism is a tactic. According to the FBI, terrorism is intended to “(i) to intimidate or coerce a civilian population; (ii) to influence the policy of a government by … [Read more…]
The following is a selected post from Conflict Manager Magazine. Full access to this monthly magazine is available to subscribers only. Click here to subscribe. Interesting in submitting an article for publication? Email: editor@ConflictManagerMagazine.com. “A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor” – English Proverb It is likely that there will come a time when … [Read more…]
Respect begets respect. It takes respect to get respect. You have to give respect to receive respect. These are all common sayings that represent a shared truth. Respect is an elusive concept. You can ask for respect, but you may not get it. You may demand more respect and get less respect in return. Respect … [Read more…]
The goal of effective boundary setting is to eliminate violations. Violations are eliminated by the creation of Respect. Respect is created by Just-Right Enforcement. In order to create Just-Right Enforcement, Just-Right Communication is required. Just-Right Communication enables Just-Right Enforcement because 1. It is NOT Under-Communication which creates confusion about the rules. 2. It is NOT … [Read more…]
All Self-Protection Methodologies are essentially problem solving systems whose solution is to deprive an aggressor of his or her Intent and/or Means and/or Opportunity to do harm. The Point of View of the Problem Solver influences which system he or she will choose. All of these systems are made up of a distinct set … [Read more…]
If you are involved in the personal safety/self-defense industry, you will notice a common complaint. The majority of people in the world really are not interested in what you have to sell. Regardless of how important the subject matter is, or that you feel it is, most people do not put a lot of thought … [Read more…]
Imagine you are driving down a two-way street named Accountability. Coming straight at you is a car driving down the center of the road, acting as if Accountability is actually a one-way street. “What an a**hole”, you think. Now think about some of the advocates of social change. Pick a cause, Black Lives Matter, Blue … [Read more…]
Why hit somone? Four Categories to consider. Here are four categories for why someone intentially hits someone else: 1. To Force the person to do or not do something. 2. To create Fear in order to itimidate the person to do or not do something. 3. As a form of Enforcement for a rule violation. (Punishment … [Read more…]
Under-Respect is effectively “a lack of Respect“. It comes in many forms. In order to understand Under-Respect, it is necessary to understand Respect. Respect is commonly thought of as “the admiration for someone or something”. But Respect is also a feeling that serves to restrain people. It is a form of self-control. When people are … [Read more…]